By Dave Parslew, Senior Internal Recruiter.
As well as looking after internal recruitment, Dave is a first time dad. In this post he talks about anticipating the birth of his first born, the decision to utilise Shared Parental Leave and why more men should be utilising SPL.
Shared Parental Leave (SPL) for me seems like a fantastic opportunity to be able to spend some quality time with my first born, Sam. During our pregnancy, my wife Anna and I decided that SPL was definitely for us and when it came to ‘D’ day, we agreed that she will take the first 9 months and I will take the last 3. I always joked that May to August will be a perfect 3 months in the sun for me, though now with the birth of my child and all the work to look after a new baby, my views have of course changed!
The resemblance is already uncanny for Dave and baby Sam.
Quite a few years ago, I assumed that when I did actually have kids, I would have to go back to work after my 2 weeks of paternity and leave the all-important first year of quality time to my wife. I thought that was the only option and at the time it was! However, things have changed and the question I asked myself and all the other eligible fathers out there is why wouldn’t you?!
Around 285,000 couples in the UK are eligible every year for shared parental leave, but take-up “could be as low as 2%”, according to the Department for Business. Nearly three years after it was introduced around half of the general public still are unaware the option exists. Experts say that as well as a lack of understanding of what is on offer, cultural barriers and financial penalties are deterring some parents from sharing parental leave.
There seems to be a lot of “research undertaken by trusted organisations” about SPL out there but I say don’t just rely on the headlines and newspaper write-ups; delve a little deeper into the detail and look at the research for yourself!
Research shows the poor take-up of the policy is due to concerns about lack of financial support for fathers. I say, if you manage your finances correctly and are prepared for the eventuality that you might be slightly out of pocket for a few months of your life, you will get to spend some amazing time with your children (time you will NEVER get back) so just go for it!
However, the main problem with childcare take up remains – many men just wouldn’t want it because they’re scared it would impact their careers. It’s not that men’s attitudes are anti-childcare these days. It’s more that this fear outweighs fathers’ enthusiasm to have a stint at being a stay-at-home dad or the desire to exercise their legal right. It’s the dated belief that a man better serves their family by sticking to a traditional career path.
In my opinion, if you care that much about money, then perhaps you shouldn’t have kids in the first place as they WILL most definitely suck you dry of most of your finances. However if you see it as I see it then everyone’s a winner!
This is a government funded scheme remember, so in my case the company I work for (Sopra Steria) will have to cover my work for 3 months but they have been very accommodating about it and in some ways educated by it due to the lack of uptake.
Fair enough I won’t get paid for 3 months but there is an option to plan some ‘Staying in Touch’ days with HR (paid in full for the day) and I still accrue holiday while I am off along with Bank Holidays.
Hopefully my example will encourage others to do the same. To top it all off of course, I will have an awesome few months with my new son. I am looking forward to this immensely and the bottom line is, ”You only live once”!
Below are the key points about SPL, learn more about the intiative here.
What is Shared Parental Leave?
- Shared parental leave (SPL) was introduced in April 2015
- It allows parents to share 50 weeks of leave and 37 weeks of pay after they have a baby
- Parents can take time off separately or can be at home together for up to six months
- SPL is paid at £140.98 per week or 90% of your average earnings, whichever is lower